It’s common knowledge that it’s impossible to please everyone. Nonetheless we try to do so day in, day out and are left frustrated when it doesn’t work out.
For years I thought that colourful hair was pretty cool but I never had the courage to have it myself. Partly because it involves bleaching my hair, partly because I didn’t want to stand out from the crowd .
This year, I was away from my usual environment, rather isolated in Germany, and had no friends, classmates, teachers, acquaintances etc. around who could judge me. They were far away in Switzerland and I didn’t give thought to the people in Germany because I would be leaving anyway.
So I changed my hair colour without thinking of how people would react and it was definitely better that way. Of course it provoked many reactions and I would have thought twice if I had known that before because I don’t like to attract attention.
My hair colour polarises. People either hate it or love it. I had to listen to many very negative comments. People were disgusted, thought I was being childish, were critical. Kids on the street made nasty comments while I was still within earshot.
On the other hand, I also got many compliments, partly from people who took me by surprise. My gym instructor said it looked cool and he’d like to have it himself, a girl approached me on the street and said “excuse me, you’ve got beautiful blue hair”.
Others interpreted that I’m having a rebellious phase or that I’m trying to find myself (oh my, I just liked it and wanted to try it, period).
At the beginning, I was very anxious about leaving my apartment and getting weird looks, very sensitive about comments I’d get.
Luckily, I had my boyfriend and a good friend’s support.
No matter what others said, they encouraged me and helped me to stand by myself. I didn’t need anyone else’s approval. It didn’t matter what others think. It’s my hair and others should bother their own business.
After a while, I realised something. This applies to everything in life. If I have learnt something from changing my hair colour to an unusual colour, then the fact that I should just do my own thing more often.
There will always be people who encourage me and people who are critical or hate what I’m doing. And it’s okay. I don’t need everybody’s approval.
The only one who has to be okay with my decisions is me.